I was with a group of university students recently. They were kicking off a new College and Careers Cell Group, and the topic for the evening was worry. After going through some scripture and discussing what the Bible said about worry, we dove into the topic of what these young men and women were worried about. The first few words wouldn’t surprise anyone “school”, “grades”, “getting into the right program” and “getting a job”. These are all par for the course for undergrads. The next couple of things made me throw up my hands and says “whoa!” They were, and I am being 100% honest, “finding a wife” and “having kids”.
I couldn’t help but think of the song “8th Grade” by Chris Rice. The chorus says:
why does the past always seem safer?
maybe because at least we know me made it
and why do we worry about the future?
when every day will come just the way the Lord ordained it
Isn’t it the truth? We quickly forget how faithful God has always been and start worrying. I love “8th Grade” because its lyrics are all things that you worry about in Jr. High but seem so inconsequential once you get to be about 15. It’s a reminder that the things I am worried about are probably not as big of an issue as they seem at the moment.
After that evening discussing the difference between preparing and worrying (and trying to squelch the fear that you have to have everything figured out before your 23rd birthday) and thinking about Rice’s lyrics, it hit me how much worrying is an indication of how much I am trusting God at the time.
It’s interesting how the amount of worrying I do and where my relationship with God is are related. Not interesting in the surprising sense, because when you think about it, its correlation is obvious; however; interesting in the sense that at the first sense of worry I should be turning back to my Heavenly Father because it is a sure sign that I have started to turn away and try to do things my own way.
For those of you who know me, you know that I like to have things figured out and under control. Giving up control is very hard for me to do. I like to know where I am going before I get there. Google Maps is my best friend because I can get a street view so I know exactly what I am looking for.
In Psalms 119:105 it says “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” I have to constantly remind myself that it’s a lamp unto my FEET – not a big, bright search light that is illuminating the road for miles. Trusting God means trusting Him for the next step. Sure, He knows our future and has plans for us, but our job is to trust in each step.
I am past the point where I am worried about whom I will marry and if I will have kids, but those life events have been replaced by others that I am working my way towards. The key is to keep my focus on God, don’t fret, and trust Him to guide me.